Sometimes, It’s okay to be out of alignment with yourself. You have to be able to recognize when that happens, how it happens, and what to do to get back in alignment. It’s not always easy, and not an overnight fix. Everyone can feel out of alignment once in a while.
Today, I have a deep conversation with you all about how I’ve been feeling out of alignment and how I’m getting back to me. While it may take some time, I wanted to be authentic and real with you that it’s not always rainbows and butterflies.
If you’re going through this, too, just know, we can do it together.
In this episode I chat about:
How I’ve been feeling out of alignment
What practices you can do to get yourself back in alignment
That it’s not always linear to heal
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Hi friends! Welcome back to Jules Unscripted. Today's episode is a very deep episode. I didn't really have a plan. I wanted to talk with you all about certain different things.
I'm thinking of doing it for today's episode. I didn't really have a plan as to what to talk about really. I wanted to do a video, but the video didn't feel right for me for this episode. I'm thinking that for some solo episodes I may just do audio honestly and wait till I get more comfortable in front of the camera, to do more solo episodes.
I wanna be honest and open and I wanna be real and authentic, and I feel like I do that best with audio. So for right now, this episode is.
What I've been feeling lately the past couple months in the last episode, I've talked about that I was getting my shit together, that I had to come back to my podcast and figure out what I wanted to do, and a lot of that came from a place out of alignment. A friend recently said to me when I asked the question. How do you come back to yourself and what do you do to feel better? . And she told me that I'm out of alignment with my soul and who I am and what I wanna do this for. and she also mentioned that I need to figure out my why again. I had to sit with for a long time and I'm still sitting with it. It's not a quick, easy fix. Getting back into alignment, it feels off. It feels funny. You feel like you're not yourself at all.
I will say that I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety a couple years ago, and while I'm not on medication right now, I try to do things holistically. When I feel off and when I feel depressed and when I feel out of alignment, it takes me a while to get back to who I am and to the funny, happy jewels that people know and love.
And it honestly feels like it's taking me a while to get there. I mentioned it before that the past couple months I've experienced some really heavy emotional states. And that I've been really letting all that energy fall into a couple places.
Well, I've been holding onto that energy. I've finally decided to let it go and letting it go does take a lot of effort and does take a lot of time to see what it looks like from the other side of being stuck in that emotional wheelhouse. I wasn't the past couple months. So yeah, I've been feeling off, I've been feeling unmotivated. I've been feeling odd and weird and not like myself. I have been trying to get back into therapy. I thought I was fine. I thought I was good and we just haven't made the time work. But in the meantime, before I do have my next appointment, I've been journaling like crazy, y'all. I've been talking to friends. I've been slowing down. I've been trying to breathe
and going through it can be lonely at times. It can feel like you don't know what you're doing, right?
It can feel like you've been stuck in this pattern for a while and you feel tired. Not physically active. You feel disconnected from passions and you start over apologizing, doubting yourself and always second guessing what you're meant to do. And B,
this feeling of misalignment after huge emotional breakdown is what I've been feeling like. And so with feeling these things, I have to realize that it's okay to sit in them for a minute. It's okay to take your time. It's okay to do the small things today. I actually was, uh, quiet. I had a cup of coffee and I had my book and I was outside just reading, trying to sit with myself. I find that a lot of times I'm distracted by my phone and TikTok and Instagram reels and scrolling and doom scrolling and not really sitting with me.
And so today when I took my book out, I started to feel really good and I felt nice and it was a part of me that I used to do before and I haven't done in a while. I feel like I need to start doing things like that again before I get into what you can do to feel better and what you can do to come back to yourself. I feel it's important that you also have to journal. You need to ask yourselves, what do I need right now? When was the last time I felt like myself? Am I living in a way that honors my values?
When you sit and you work with on these questions, you sometimes come up with answers you don't wanna hear, and, you might need to sit with that a little bit longer too. And that's okay. I'm still sitting with them. When I talked about journaling, this is the kind of stuff that I journal about. I ended up going to the writer's block a little bit ago, and I've got this little pocket journal. I have this huge journal that's beautiful and it's, uh, has the famous painting from Van Gogh. The blue one with the white flowers surrounding it. I forget what it's called, but that one is a little bit more of a personal journal, and I really wanted something where I could have these hard conversations with myself. And having this journal really helps because I keep you with me everywhere. It was in my bag at all time. Honestly. I take it out when I feel like I need to. Right, and just write and let the energy in my head out. I write whenever I can and have time. And honestly, writing helps me let it go.
There are other practices you can do to realign yourself. We've been talking about this for a while, but sitting with your thoughts, journaling, breathing, getting quiet. Another good way is to move your body. I haven't been moving my body in the past couple of weeks. Going on walks, doing yoga, dancing is all good examples of letting your energy out and trying to feel your body again, feeling stuck, feel stagnant, moving your body, you're letting that energy out. Another good thing to do is revisit joy, doing something for fun with no pressure.
So I've asked a couple of my girlfriends, what do you do to come back to yourself after being emotionally drained? Like what tips do you have? One said, take a bath with a glass of wine. In a good book. Find time to hang out with people that they been shutting out, make and buy my favorite meal. Another one said, taking time outside. I've been taking my tablet on the balcony at night and watching my TV shows in my lounge chair. Just be present. When I walk my dog, I try to notice the world around me. Look at the clouds, look at the flowers, playing with pets and smelling favorite smells that come from a candle or a lotion or fresh flower. Another friend says, I try to find time to do things that don't take too much brain power, that make me feel happy, like simple crafts like crochet or Rhine, Sony things. Activities like reading or relaxing in a jacuzzi since they don't have a bath, so another friend said. I watch and listen to my comfort shows and YouTube channels to feel more like myself. Usually something lighthearted and funny is the best for me. When I've been feeling emotional drain. When I'm struggling. Sometimes comedic things are not the best to watch or I'm not in the mood, but sometimes it helps.
What I like to do, I like to journal. I'm know I mention it quite a few times. I like to journal. I like to read. I like to do small things that help me feel like the world is still around me, that I'm not going into a spiral.And so while you may be in this state of emotionally drained on alignment, burnt out, I wanted to remind you that you're not broken. You're not alone, that everyone goes through this and then you're just human. So I'm not a hundred percent an affirmation person, but sometimes affirmations help others. An affirmation for you to leave with today is I am safe to return to myself and I don't have to do more to be enough.
Say those a couple times a day and see how you feel. Healing is not always linear. It may take time for you to get back into realignment with yourself, but give yourself some grace. We can do this together thank you all for. Out with today as I talk about being out of alignment, being out of alignment and what it takes to get back a long ahead, but that's okay. Yeah, we got this together. Thank you all so much for listening and I'll see you in the next episode.
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